Why are so many men reduced to piling on an angry Bud Light boycott? Here’s why. — Indicative of the huge conservative backlash against Bud Light for its branding partnership with trans influencer Dylan Mulvaney, a fellow named @0xAlaric continued the culture war against woke beer on Twitter: “Light beer was a hallmark of American masculinity. It united blue collar workers, frat guys, soldiers… everybody could unite…

Transactional intimacy is baked into Man Box culture. — In Man Box culture, we raise boys in a bullying dominance hierarchy. The result is millions of men who hide our authentic selves, do not express our emotions, and view caring for others as a means to an end. The personal and professional interpersonal challenges this creates for all of…

We become the danger because of how we view manhood. — The archetypal old white dude once screaming “get off my lawn” at the neighborhood kids is now opening fire on innocent people. How did we get here? We got here because of a toxic mix of fear-inducing right wing media, gun culture, and our dominance-based culture of masculinity, which isolates…

I totally see where you’re coming from. You don’t consider the criminalization of abortion in states across the US to be a direct attack on women’s physical well being and rights. You’re fine with the number of abusive men battering their wives. What about the fact that more women die from pregnancy in the US than in any other wealthy nation? You’re totally cool with that. Femicide numbers globally are totally not a problem for you. Iran’s ongoing murder of women and men protesting for women’s most basic rights is an outlier. Of course it is. None of this is indicative of a masculine culture that has the denigration and abuse of girls and women baked in. I see where you’re coming from.

Women’s power and agency have reached a tipping point. — This generation of young women aren’t internalizing patriarchy. The attempt to condition them to accept a dominance-based culture of masculinity isn’t working. Which is why so many men can’t get a date. Him: *Signaling old school masculinity* Her: Oh, hell no! Why would I want that? The result is many…

It’s no wonder we still orient to, make excuses for, soften our response to men who bully women in the workplace. — There is a huge challenge in how many of us men approach being an ally to women. We think we can become allies to women without it bringing up all of the deep emotional work we have yet to do in our own lives. There’s a reason why abuse against…

We’re swimming upstream against hyper-individualism, status, hierarchy, and dominance. — Do you ever just get fed up tired with all the push back against simple baseline values like the human right to equity? Why is this battle still raging? What the hell? And if I’m tired, I can only imagine how exhausted Black folks feel with the endless manifestations of…

This is a message to myself as much as to any other man. — If you are a man who is working to be an ally because you pay attention to and speak out against harmful male behaviors towards women and non-binary people in the workplace, thank you. Take a minute with that thank you. It’s real. But here is the next shoe to…

“This tenderness. We just…erase it.” — Lukas Dhont — This single comment from my interview for Ms. Magazine with Close filmmaker Lukas Dhont speaks directly to the root cause of millions of men’s ongoing violence, anxiety, and dysfunction. …