A. J. I’m not going to go much farther down this road with you, but I would ask you to look at what you are saying.

You begin by saying this: “Who teaches us to blame women? Please direct me to the authority you are referring to because no one has EVER told me this.”

Then you write multiple paragraphs BLAMING WOMEN. Clearly, you and everyone in your circle of influence is blaming women. How far back in your life does that extend? How subtle were the first messages you ever recieved demeaning women? Yes the world talks shit about men. But it also demeans women.

When did you first hear the words bitch or cunt? Did you assume it to be normal?

How, in a world as complex as this one, can all of your complaints be the result of the actions of one gender? To me that sounds like a startling lack of personal accountability, extending to your entire gender. Ask yourself why?

I don’t let women off the hook for the damage done by our culture of masculinity. Millions of women promote the man box, damanding that boys and men suppress their emotions and man up. But to suggest that men didn’t create the man box and are simply victims in this construct, flies in the face of every experience you and I have had as men among men.

If I may, I suggest you consider a weekend with the Mankind Project. Those guys don’t mess around, they love and care for men and they help us get past the rage we all feel.

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Author THE LITTLE #METOO BOOK FOR MEN https://www.amazon.com/dp/0983466963 Writer/speaker on inclusion, masculinity. BBC, New York Times- http://remakingmanhood

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