I’m right there with you on the intimate friendships with men. Specifically, the terror of it. But you just prescribed your solution. You specifically used the word ritualistic. I want to invite you to consider the Mankind Project. They have a weekend that is very powerful and very transformative around this question of trusting men and pushing through the panic that we carry around intimacy and connection with other men. The issue that I took in was exactly like that which you describe. The only difference was I was drop dead tired of going it alone.
I invite you to take a look at the Mankind Project. And know that I have every single reservation about organizations, cults, conformity and giving up my firm clenched grasp on my own fears. I’m not a joiner and I’m not a trusting fellow. Or at least I wasn’t. The Mankind Project is doing amazing work and it may offer a solution for you. Take a look and see what you think.