Hi Rand, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I want to suggest that although there is some truth in your observations about our cultural bias against men, I have a different view of the source of that bias and how it contributes to our isolation. For me, men are victims of a culture created by and enforced by men. It is a man box pyramid of power whereby men are forced to conform to traditional manhood and police each other to be “real men.”

That policing manifests as an almost universal pecking order by which men police any performance of manhood that takes place outside of the narrow conforming confines of traditional manhood. This includes emotional emotional expression, non gender conforming behaviors, and much more.

“Real men” don’t show their emotions is the primary rule of being a real man and as such, we suppress our authentic expression and, by extension, keep all our relationships surface level and short term. The baseline of men’s isolation is rooted in what men do to men. And as such, we must push back to create a much broader definition of what manhood is. Only then will we be able to present our authentic selves and break out of the isolating trap we are all in.

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

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Author THE LITTLE #METOO BOOK FOR MEN https://www.amazon.com/dp/0983466963 Writer/speaker on inclusion, masculinity. BBC, New York Times- http://remakingmanhood

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