Thanks for commenting, Phillip. You make some important points. Yes, the collective pressure to conform as providers and spouses is substantial but you don’t get to reject the equally substantial role that homophobia plays, not when decades of research by leading researchers (both men and women) in the field say otherwise. Additionally, I disagree with where you locate the source of our culture’s isolating impact on men. I put that squarely on a culture designed and controlled by men. Yes, women play a powerful role in perpetuating that culture but it starts with men.