Thanks for the mention here, Kaia. As you and I have discussed in the past, our dominance-based man box culture of masculinity is sustained by the very men who suffer it's isolating and tramuatizing impact.

It's a closed loop of trauma inflicted on infant and adolescent boys, which cuts them off from connection and community, instead slotting us into a domination-based hierarchies in which we are expected to dominate others or lose status. We are policed and bullied for decades via the denigration of the feminine (What are you, a sissy? What are you, a girl?) which brainwashes us beginning in childhood into seeing women and girls as less.

When we are challenged by women, non gender binary people, LGBTQI+ people, and BIPOC to self reflect and change, we default to angry dominance as our only mode of response and the closed loop of dominance-based man box culture reinforces itself.

At risk of sounding like I'm just here promoting a book, feel free to download a sample of the first five chapters of The Little #MeToo Book for Men and take a look at how men and women together can first deconstruct and then challenge man box culture. bit.ly/2RAtqJO