Thanks for this raw and challenging read, Julia. It brought up a range of fears for me. My own “nice guy” bullshit, leading the pack. If we want to be good men, or women, we need to keep one thing firmly in mind. That is, and always will be, a work in progress. We move toward the goal or away from it depending our our daily choices and actions. Thanks for sharing your personal work. Stay the course. There are many of us in the world doing this work alongside you.