Relational Book for Parenting, Part 5: Tracking the Powerful Influence of Context
Understanding the role of context helps our kids to take a wider view of their relationships
Part 5: Taking context into account is a central capacity for understanding the ups and downs of our relationships.
From our book, The Relational Book for Parenting.
“Considering context invites us to track stories, events, and ideas around us that impact the meaning of what we are experiencing. Contexts can be emotional, familial, social, cultural, historical, situational, geographical and more.
Clearly, context can be thought of as present events that affect our tone, mood, level of energy and more. But context is also our histories, our fears and the cycle of events we are creating. In order to consider context, we must consider how the multitude of events and experiences we encounter daily intersect. It is a cycle of meaning by which context defines our goals or actions, which in turn, redefine context and so on.”
Our children have the capacity to consider the circumstances that inform others’ actions.
Asking our young children to consider what others might be feeling is a basic but profound introduction to context. When we say, “maybe Sarah had a bad day at school” or “maybe Robby isn’t feeling very confident about sports” we are suggesting that other influences may be informing events that impact us. When we ask our little ones to consider what another child might be feeling, we grow our children’s relational capacity to track and consider the larger context in which our relationships are embedded.
Here are some more comic panels from our book: